Every Friday we unite for five minutes. Only five minutes, that's all we get, that's all we have. And then, right where we are, no edits or second-thoughts, we publish those words. This week, we write on turn.
Go.
It's our turn.
We have been focussing on you
your needs
your wants
your cries
your little grunts
your inability
your everything.
But, I don't have babies anymore.
I now have kids
and part of the appeal of aging and independence is we get to focus on us.
Our turn
our lives
our rhythm.
We get to find a new version of us.
One that has been through hell and back.
One that has turned towards and away from love and coming running back again.
One that leans hard on one another.
It's our turn now.
Things with kids get busier
schedules get crazier
schedules become really important
schedules were always important to me though.
Things with kids get blurry
because we think they put us out of focus when in actuality they have us focus on what is most important.
And that is always and forever togetherness.
It's all they want, it's all they need, it's all they ask for.
Things with kids get overwhelming
because we feel overwhelmed.
Because we think it should feel heavy
because raising humans is heavy.
But, what they really remind us of is how light things should be.
How dumb we are for making it overwhelming
because how is love anything but light?
It's our turn now
it's on us to refocus
reinterpret
rephrase our worry
regroup and reclaim us.
Our turn to look into what is meant for us to carry vs what we add that has no meaning.
Our turn to define our family.
Stop.
This is lovely! Our last little one is getting ready to potty train, and it's bringing into focus that we are heading out of the baby years into the big kid years and we need to make sure our marriage is solid enough to carry us the rest of the way. Thank you for this important reminder!
There is a lot here. I love the way the last line summed it up. What we are that has no meaning. I think that is where the heaviness comes from. Beautiful post. #65 on fmf